My ex boyfriend and i still hook up

What was the first reaction you had when your phone screen lit up, and the text from a name you knew all too well showed? Were there hints of disgust or did your stomach do somersaults in delight? Were you nonchalant about it or did you stare blankly into space for a good couple of minutes, unsure of what to do or how to feel? A bombardment of questions start to flood your thoughts, as you try to logically figure out what intentions your ex could possibly have in contacting you, when he already has a new girlfriend.

What a reverse in roles, considering your ex-boyfriend was probably the one who broke up with you. Before I lay out the potential reasons for contacting you, it would be good for you to clear your head first, and think logically from this point onwards. Here are a couple of things you could take note of to help with your flow of thought.

How long has it been since your last conversation with him? Are you guys on friendly terms right now? How did the relationship end?

The time and day he first contacted you again? Was it a text or a call? Did he immediately ask to meet, or did he seem to sincerely be interested in finding how you were doing? One of the clearest way to tell is if he texted you past midnight on a weekend, to ask if you would like to hang duh. However, even if he texts you in the middle of the day and initiates a conversation, be wary too that he might still want to hook up.

Gauge the tone of the first text: Does he suggest catching up frequently and usually for night activities? There could be a variety of reasons why he would want to hook up with you.

He will never treat you seriously if you allow him to sleep with you whenever he wants to, despite having a girlfriend. Well, this just shows you that he meant it. Thread carefully here as the last thing you want is to have a jealous girlfriend harassing you. If you did enjoy having him around in a non-romantic sense, you could always consider his offer of being friends again.

Ultimately, you guys shared a connection which allowed an intimate relationship to form in the first place. Why let that go to waste by not even remaining friends? If you have the patience to wait it out and to genuinely provide comfort as a friend, I suggest doing so. Perhaps you were the one who initiated the breakup, or perhaps you hurt his feelings and he decided to end things. Everyone wants to win the breakup and make the other party regret leaving them.

Instead, ask yourself what you did to make him feel like he needs to win the breakup. Your ex-boyfriend may be feeling confused, unsure if he loves his new girlfriend or still has feelings for you. You will end up observing a hot and cold reaction from him because there will be moments that he misses you and becomes extremely close to you, while other times he may direct his attention towards his girlfriend and ignore you.

If your ex-boyfriend is seriously still hung up over you, he would inevitably come back, without you doing anything. However, if you start pressuring him to get back together with you, sometimes people react in an opposite manner and it may remind him of the bad times especially if you were someone who would try to control him back in the relationship. Give him some space, but let him know that you will be there for him. He may end up missing you more, and things would work out in your favor.

At the end of the day, there could be many other reasons why he would contact you, but these are just some of the more common ones. You can either feel good or bad about it, based on your perspective.

What To Do Now?


If your ex-boyfriend is seriously still hung up over you, he would inevitably come back, without you doing anything. However, if you start pressuring him to get back together with you, sometimes people react in an opposite manner and it may remind him of the bad times (especially if you were someone who would try to control him back in the. Well if I was you and the idea of hooking up with my ex still got me excited, I would hook up and have fun, catch up and have a few laughs for old times sake.

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#1 07.11.2018 в 10:45 Andrej-Bejlo:
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#2 11.11.2018 в 14:12 Cocko:
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